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ELSE is an 18+ educational, support, and social kink space for adults who identify as non-cis, including trans, intersex, third gender, agender, two-spirit, & nonbinary folx. We welcome you if you don’t feel your assigned gender @ birth fully matches your gender identity. Most of us are from the SF Bay Area, but you don’t have to be. If you are interested in joining our Discord server, please apply here. Our FetLife group is here:

Both those who know they are not cisgender (even if you aren’t sure what your identity is, or your identity is evolving), and those who are still questioning if they are cisgender or not, may participate in our Discord server, but questioning folx will use different roles. We also allow lurkers who aren’t sure where they fall.